Family Worship

Don Whitney has recently come out with some helpful videos to help you lead your family in Family Worship. I want to share these with you and express why I think that Family Worship is important. This is from the first video:

A survey by the Barna Research Group found that 85% of parents with children under age 13 believe they have primary responsibility for teaching their children about religious beliefs and spiritual matters. And yet, a majority of parents don’t spend any time during a typical week discussing religious matters or studying religious materials with their children, instead relying on their church to do all the religious training their children will receive.

I often have parents come up to me and comment about how secular public school has become. Usually in this conversation there is a comment about not allowing prayer. I agree that we need prayer in schools, but we also need it in the homes! In seminary my evangelism professor shared a very sad stat. Over 90% of professing Christians surveyed admitted they do not daily pray with their children. This is alarming.

This also lets us know if they are not praying together then they are probably not reading the bible together. However, families are sharing meals, watching TV, shopping, and doing much more together. Parents, your children are watching. What you spend time doing the most with (or without) your kids will be seen as the priority. Make spiritual formation a priority, and spiritual formation primarily takes place at home. Parents, you are the primary disciplers of your children. Don’t rely on one or two church services a week to be sufficient for your family. We must daily pursue holiness and daily seek to grow in our knowledge about God.

I love how Whitney ends each video:

God deserves to be worshiped daily in your home by your family.

Family worship is simple: Read the Bible, pray, and sing. Show your children that God is worthy of worship. Show your children that this is the most important thing that you do each day. If you want children who continue to walk with God years from now start by being the example.

I read this quote today from David Platt, President of the International Mission Board:

“Privatized faith in a resurrected King is practically inconceivable.”

How true this statement is. In that same seminary class we learned that 90% (though most studies show upwards of 98%) of professing Christians will never share their faith. How tragic and what utter disobedience to the command of Christ. Share your faith with your kids daily and let this lead to boldness for you at work and for them at school. Be a family on mission for the gospel of Christ.

I hope you will find these videos and the 30 day Family Worship starter helpful. As always, please contact me with any questions you may have. We have been given Great Commission from a worthy God. Let is start in our homes.








Christian Worldview: Should I Let My Child See Deadpool?

If your student is like me they love it when Marvel releases a new film. I am not really into the comics, but I have seen all of the movies they have been releasing as of late. They are funny, clean, and usually have a good message. However, I will not be going to see Deadpool when it comes out this year. Just because it is Marvel does not mean it is okay to go and see as a believer. In this short write up I hope you will see why you should not let your kid see it, and why you should not see it.

1) Language

There are a lot of opinions when it comes to language today, especially profanity. Most Christians I have encountered usually have a reason why using profanity is okay. Typically, because the Bible doesn’t explicitly forbid it and because the profanity today is not the same as then.

I think the Bible speaks towards profanity here, here, and here. The Bible also teaches in 1 Thessalonians 5:22, “Abstain from all appearance of evil.” Your kids are already hearing this at school, sports teams, and by playing video games online. Why would we want to enable that any further? This kind of speech is not pleasing to God for us to say or to hear, and by going to see this film you’re allowing your ears and mind to be filled with speech that God finds repulsive.

Everything we say, watch, and do is to glorify God.

2) Graphic Nudity

Let me give you some 2014 stats from an organization called Proven Men:

Christian (18-30):

  • 77% look at pornography at least monthly;
  • 36% view pornography at least daily;
  • 32% admit being addicted to pornography (and another 12% think they may be).

Christian men (ages 31-49):

  • 77% looked at pornography while at work in the past 3 months;
  • 64% view pornography at least monthly; and
  • 18% admit being addicted to pornography (and another 8% think they may be).

Married Christian Men:

  • 55% look at pornography at least monthly; and
  • 35% had an extra-marital sexual affair while married.

What about teenagers. This research from Covenant Eyes is pretty alarming:

“In a 2010 national survey, over a quarter of 16- to 17-year olds said they were exposed to nudity online when they did not want to see it. In addition 20% of 16-year-olds and 30% of 17-year-olds have received a “sext” (a sexually explicit text message).

More than 7 out of 10 teens hide their online behavior from their parents in some way.

35% of boys say they have viewed pornographic videos “too many times to count.”


More than half of boys and nearly a third of girls see their first pornographic images before they turn 13. In a survey of hundreds of college students, 93% of boys and 62% of girls said they were exposed to pornography before they turned 18. In the same survey, 83% of boys and 57% of girls said they had seen images of group sex online.”

Part of Deadpool’s “R” rating is because of graphic nudity. You are kidding yourself if you think viewing a movie with graphic nudity will not have an affect on you or your child. With the porn industry targeting 8-11 year old boys why would we want to subject them to that? Read this quote from the linked Patheos article:

“Because males are so visual (especially sexually), pornography is almost irresistibly attractive to them. Pornography is so addictive in the male’s mind because it causes a hormone to be released that actually creates a high. It works in the male brain similar to the way cocaine does. This hormone needs greater stimulation and causes the user to need and want more each time it is released. Porn users need bigger prizes, more degrading, more graphic, and more explicit images. The erotic images viewed are cataloged in a males’ mind for further use at a later time. They also cause him to be desensitized toward women and to make unfair and unrealistic comparisons.”

If we know all of this to be true about porn, and make no mistake about it the graphic nudity in this film constitutes as porn, then why would we open the door for that to our children? Why would we pay money for what might enable a struggle in their life, and in our life, for many years to come. Christians, we aren’t called to tolerate evil or close our eyes when it’s on the screen. No, we are called to flee from it. We are called to rebuke it. We are called to be above reproach. We are called to flee sexual immorality. What signal does this send if we allow our kids to see this film, or worse, see it with them?

Bottom line: Does watching this film draw you closer to and glorify God?

Parents, it will not make you cool or liked to not allow your child to see this movie. Maybe you are considering taking your child to see this movie. Instead of doing that invest in your child’s spiritual formation. They may not thank you now but they may just do it later. Make your kid’s spiritual formation a priority even if it cost you some cool points.

Sit down with your child and explain why you are not allowing them to see this movie. Tell Jesus died because of our sins. He died so we can have relationship with him. Why would we causally indulge in the things that crucified our Savior? Instead, plan a fun evening out doing something else. Just be with them. Before the night is over spend time in Scripture together. It’s an infinitely better story, and one that will also change your kids life in a much better way.